10 Ways to Well-Being After Loss

Being in Well-Being

How is your health since your personal journey into grief and loss? Most likely, your grief shows up in your body as well as your mind. Have you noticed? Or do you ignore this too and make excuses for feeling lousy? Age, out of shape, no time, costs too much, I’m just not worthy without my loved one, I will when (fill in the blank)…

Stop for a moment right now and take inventory*:

  • Is your sleep restful?
  • Do your muscles have aches and pains?
  • Are you finding yourself in the doctor’s office more often with less answers? Read more

20 Pounds of Grief

Some people can’t eat. Others may take comfort and refuge in food. Under stress, when grief hits, which road do you take? Your hunger may wax and wane with the phases of the moon. After all, appetite changes are in the list for Is My Grief Normal? 20 pounds of your grief might be up, down or the yo-yo between as you battle the scale along with your grief.

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Not Guilty

Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Guilt is the enemy of a caregiver.

I’ve always been a person who sees what I haven’t done rather than what I have accomplished. The never ending to-do list is an example. One of my professors pointed this out many years ago and ever since I realized he’s right, but I have yet to change the fact. I’m getting better, but I’m not quite over it! I don’t think I am so judgmental on others as I am on myself.
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The Cost of Hospice

Thursday, June 30, 2011

It’s time to check in with myself. Not that I don’t do so constantly with all the noise in my head. Writing slows me down to listen better.

I know I repeat myself: another week has passed, noted by the Wednesday nurse’s visit. Fortunately these visits are rather unremarkable since Dave is holding the status quo. Vital signs normal, with use of oxygen his O2 saturation percentage is rather good, maintaining liquid input, getting around the room at will, not much pain (or easily controlled)…

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Jump Shift 1

Thursday, April 21, 2011

Jump-Shift. That’s the term Dave and I use when we have a conversational change of topic.  It lets the other know that the next thing said probably has nothing to do with what was just said. Today I have spastic thoughts doing jump-shifts in my mind.
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The Waiting Room

Monday, April 11, 2011

Too many thoughts again. I want to take a break from writing sometimes but all that does is pile up the stories in my head. I have friends tell me that the blog makes them cry and I sometimes feel bad about that. This is not my intent. Yet, I have become addicted to shedding my tears and words on virtual paper… in a good way, for me, at least.
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Sunday, February 27, 2011

My mind is swirling with too many thoughts this morning. The snow has not gone away as predicted. In fact, this morning there is nothing but white from my doorstep to the doorstep across the street. It falls in icy mist then small and medium flakes. No walk around the lake this Sunday.

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What Dad Wants Dad Gets

Thursday, February 24, 2011

I feel more refreshed today than in past weeks. Some routine may be implemented now. The POLST* was signed, the hospice assessment nurse conducted her intake, there is oxygen on standby. The healthcare plan is now in place. Our outside world is covered in snow this morning. The streets are peaceful.

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