Tuesday, March 15, 2011
Can there be laughter? Have I written so much on grief I can’t share the funny times?
I remember the pilot program for Storybooks for Healing and naively thinking that meeting people in grief would be all tears and somber. But as we got to know each other and began the sharing of grief, talking about the personalities of the loved ones and recalling the stories of the relationships, laughter arrived naturally.
There has been laughter in this household and I don’t want to overlook it. From Life Review and a room full of siblings there erupts teasing, stories and competition sure to bring laughter. As discoveries are made and people feel they can tell those stories of growing up not revealed before, smiles, laughter and surprise jump out at us. As individuals meet each other in a new light of being together here and now, there is pride, understanding and warmth. This is the joyous part of reflecting together at the beginning of the end of a long life of which we all revolve.
Along my education and work path in psychology and child development I learned about research stating (who knows where it came from now!) that it takes seven positive reinforcements to overcome the single negative statement children hear. Does it take seven bouts of laughter to overcome the single sad feeling?