Who Am I Now? CIRCLING LIFE
When the grief dust settles after a significant loss, family and friends seem to find their way back to a so-called normal life. Time has helped but not actually healed. On this step through grief you might find a deeper pain emerges as a question of Who Am I, Now? The first answer is “I am not…” I am not a parent to the child, not a wife or husband, not a best friend, not the child, not the caregiver. “I am not” is how you relate specifically to your loved one. This is the heartbreak of your unique relationship. This irrevocable loss has changed who you are now and how you view the fragile world. The continued emptiness means you eventually face who you are on you own merit.
You can cross the metaphorical Navigating Grief suspension bridge that is the transition of grief and loss only to confront a different journey. This is a personal transformation period, often noted as one’s spiritual pathway. So these are the stories of finding yourself, creating new purpose or mission from your experiences, and deciding that this is your time to really focus on you. This is deep healing work of you, the beautiful and unique being that is the pinnacle of everything, not just this death, that has come before. This is intentional work to know, align and balance your beliefs, body and mind.
Are you happy, peaceful, and grateful in all ways? Are you comfortable being you? To mend, heal, fill, or encircle your broken heart after your loss (you choose the word) means to always carry with you the most important messages and lessons from life with your loved one: how the relationship contributes to who you are now and why this matters.
When your grief subsides yet an emptiness remains, it may be time to focus on your own deeper healing that is beyond missing your loved one. This is the time to move from Navigating Grief to Circling Life from your heart outward.