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Navigating Grief Bon Odori Ritual

Borrowing Rituals: Bon Odori

Grief Rituals Offer Comfort

After a death, we all engage in rituals or customs to symbolize the loss, provide comfort to the living and honor the one who died. For most Americans, the ritual is the “traditional” memorial / funeral service held just days after the death of a loved one: viewing, service, procession to the graveside and burial ceremony. The details will depend on the mourner’s religious protocol, personal and historic traditions and even the deceased’s pre-arranged wishes.
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Navigating Grief Book review Post Secrets

Book Review: A Lifetime of Secrets

A Lifetime of Secrets, A PostSecret Book
compiled by Frank Warren

Last holiday I was given a book from my adult daughter: A Lifetime of Secrets, A PostSecret Book by Frank Warren. I hadn’t heard of this series of books, and was immediately drawn in by the cover art.

PostSecrets originated in 2003 after a dream led the artist to a journey of postcard messages. The use of postcards as a miniature canvas evolved into a group art project. According to the website, “PostSecret is an ongoing community art project where people mail in their secrets anonymously on one side of a postcard.” Simple.  Extremely profound.
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Navigating Grief is Universal

You Are the Expert on Your Grief

Recognize the Individuality of Loss

One of the important premises of Navigating Grief is that grief is universal, yet loss is individual. As you travel your journey of grief reflection, there are three layers about your grief to understand: The universality of grief; the bond with someone who experiences the same type of loss; and your own personal, individual loss.
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On Writing: The Audience

Who Needs to Know Your Stories after Grief?

Behind our sorrow and loss are stories. Stories of love, of life, of pain and grief. Stories of happy times, traditions, maybe even of life cut short. They are stories of me, you, us and we. Each of them have a place in grief and memories. They are the stories about people, which is always at the heart of grief.

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Navigating Grief Seeing with Perspective

Perspectives

I remember as a young girl going through the library of the educational Time/Life books my parents had on the den bookshelf. Perhaps you remember these, too. One book would be delivered each month focused on a different topic based on the Library of Nature, or Library of World or other series.  In fact, I recall they were glossy, photograph hardcover books just like the storybooks you can publish today!
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The Joy (and Pain) of Remembering: Photos

When Remembering When Makes You Cry

There is a risk inherent in remembering when you are grieving and missing your loved one after a death. A risk of opening the wounds of loss, the reminder of being left behind, the desire to change what can’t be undone of past words and actions and events. But there is also a risk of remembering what feels good – recalling memories of happy times, holding photos and seeing video that brings stillness to life, taking comfort in activities that were once carried out with a partner, or child.  The risk to open your mind to the joy of memories is at the expense of confronting the pain of those same memories.

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Grief 101

Grief is a Process Some Call a Journey

Grief after the death of a loved one can be draining.  There may be days that seem to go on forever.  There may be loneliness, numbness, anger, fear, and an intensity of all feelings.  You may have physical changes such as fatigue, headaches, and low energy.  Your concentration may be lacking.  You may want to have everyone around you, or you may want to isolate yourself.  You might want to visit places that remind you of your loss, feel a need for rituals, and treasure objects of the person who died.

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